Pregnancy Shock
Melissa contacted me in a state of shock. After several years of trying to get pregnant and struggling both naturally and with a series of IVF attempts, Melissa and her husband had reached a point where they felt they needed to let go of their dream and find other ways to fulfil their lives. Now two years on, Melissa was forty, bewildered and anxious with a positive pregnancy result.
My initial conversation with Melissa highlighted a number of issues. For starters, the positive test result had lifted the lid on a great deal of suppressed emotion from many years of failed attempts to conceive. Added to this, she was anxious about pregnancy having turned forty, as well as fears about how she would cope if something went wrong with this pregnancy. Melissa was in that familiar state of not daring to believe there might be a real chance of success at the end of this pregnancy journey.
In a couple of sessions, we cleared many emotions of grief, sadness, anger, shame and depression relating to Melissa’s history of trying to conceive and we worked in greater depth on the failed IVF cycles which were especially uncomfortable memories.
In the second session we addressed Melissa’s anxieties about her age and dissolved many fears about the success of this pregnancy and the list of worries she had written down about thinking forward to each pregnancy milestone. Melissa worked with a relaxation CD I prepared for her with specific affirmations to keep her mind positively focused in the early weeks of her pregnancy.
Melissa opted for a support programme to keep herself together emotionally during pregnancy and we worked together once a week to clear anxieties and those little niggling doubts and fears that are an inevitable part of every woman’s pregnancy. This helped Melissa to get on with life and live normally instead of in fear of something going wrong.
Melissa planned to birth in hospital and delivered with an epidural to manage her labour and birth. Her beautiful baby boy weighed in at a very healthy 7lbs 4oz. Melissa is amazed that after so much heartache she finally achieved her dream of motherhood and it is surprising how many couples have similar surprises once they shift their life focus in life and let go of feelings of desperation.
For other women, a shock pregnancy result may leave them feeling utterly perplexed for reasons they cannot pinpoint. So, if this pretty much defines where you are at right now, then I’m here to help you too.
Plenty of books will tell you that the reason women find themselves ‘sitting on the fence’ is due to a fear of wrecking a great relationship or a reluctance to relinquish a carefree lifestyle, a rewarding career, a comfortable income and the freedom of self-indulgent leisure time. In reality, there is often more to it than that. In fact, these concerns are still present in women who take that leap into the unknown and choose to follow through with an unplanned pregnancy.
To truly understand your indecision, you need to dig a little deeper beneath the surface to get to the real issues and that means paying attention to the thoughts, feelings, emotions, core beliefs and perhaps fears and phobias which are causing your inner conflict. As you clear each of these layers, you will get to the heart of the matter, which once acknowledged and cleared, will give you the clarity you need to make your decision.
If you would like unbiased support following a positive pregnancy result, visit the Pure Therapy and Essential Support programme pages. Alternatively, use the form below to drop me a line or call and speak with me directly on 01276 21386.
Conception & Birth Services
Pure Therapy Programme Brief therapy to dissolve your fears, phobias, anxieties and any emotional trauma. This programme focuses on calming your mind, restoring your confidence and self-esteem, giving you back a sense of control in your life as well as the clarity to make important decisions.
Essential Support Programme Regular, short check-in sessions by phone to keep you calm, relaxed, optimistic and positively focused between significant milestones from conception to birth. The therapeutic toolkit enables sabotaging emotional wobbles to be dissolved in an instant.
HypnoBirthing® Classes The ultimate in birth preparation classes to teach both you and your partner how to use hypnotic relaxation skills, special breathing techniques and endorphin releasing massage to manage the physical demands of labour and feel calm, relaxed and confident during the birth.
Parent Coaching Programme No baby arrives with a manual and few parents have endless hours to devour a ‘how to’ book. Parent coaching is a supportive route to helping you create your own practical solutions to whatever parenting challenges you are facing, in time sensitive short sessions.